Not waiting..... but definitely not settling

Last week I had a conversation with a few of my co-workers about how it's sad when people wait for something for so long and then just settle because they are tired of waiting. Particularly we were talking about relationships and sex before marriage.

It's sad to me when a girl is willing to wait for so long, but then gives up hope and settles for the first guy who looks in her direction. Or students who have decided to wait until marriage for sex, but then when it's post college graduation and there still aren't any prospects they forget the promises they have made. It's sad to me when people settle for less than what they deserve in life.

It's also sad to me when people think that they aren't whole or complete or worthy of things just because they aren't married. It's like they are waiting to start their lives until there is a significant other present. It's as if they only think life begins when they are dating or engaged or married or have their first child or first grandchild, etc.

Here's my philosophy on it all. I'm not waiting to live my life. It's my life now. I shouldn't be waiting to travel or buy a kayak or learn new things or have big adventures just because I don't have a boyfriend or fiance or husband. This is my life right now and it is already in motion. I need to live like that.

The other part of my life philosophy is this: I haven't waited for 28 years for the right guy to throw it all away now. I understand people get tired of waiting. But I don't understand how you can wait for so long and then throw it away. Toss it out the window like the last 28 years weren't worth it? Or hard? Or something? I'm not waiting to live my life, but I definitely am waiting for the right guy and waiting until I'm married to have sex. I haven't held on to this for 28 years to just not care all of a sudden. The wait for that makes it that much better to me. I'm not just dropping my standards because it's been a while. I mean if you knew you could eat Outback if you waited just a little bit longer, why in the world would you go eat Taco Bell just because you were tired of waiting???? Because you were wavering in your self-control?? Taco Bell is only momentarily satisfying and will ultimately make you regret it shortly after you eat it.

I'm not waiting to live my life. But there are some things that are worth not settling for and those I will continue to wait for. I read a girls blog last month and she was talking about this. I think she did a fabulous job of tackling this topic. You should check it out: http://gracefortheroad.com/2012/02/03/idontwait/

Until then......