New Normal??

It's funny how in life we expect that when we hit a certain point, that things will settle in to a groove and stay that way. When things change we say to ourselves, "this will be the new normal." The thing is that life is always changing. There's always a new normal to adjust to and become familiar with.

My parents have been divorced for nearly twenty years now. (nineteen to be exact) You would think that over the course of nearly two decades that we would have come across all the things that divorced families deal with. Not true. There will always be new waters to navigate.

Just last year we learned to navigate the seas of divorced family with sibling weddings. Not a hard navigation, but still new territory. This year we navigated Christmas with divorced parents and siblings who spent the holidays with their in-laws. For the last nineteen years I have had two Christmases. This year I had four.

Every time I think of things and look back and compare it reminds me of a Nooma video by Rob Bell. In his video "Today" he says: “But life isn’t static, is it? It ebbs and it flows and people grow up and move away and graduate and lose their jobs and people that you love die and some people get married and others don’t and some get divorced and some get cancer and things aren’t how they were.”

It's true. Things are constantly changing and I don't think we ever even hit a "new normal". I think all we can expect is life. Every day is a new day with new events and challenges and surprises. "Life isn't static, is it? It ebbs and flows."

Until then......