"How you doin"

My friend and I went to Chili's tonight to grab dessert after dinner. (Chili's is one of my absolute favorite places to eat) Recently she and I have discovered some of the perks of sitting in the bar/lounge area to eat. For instance if you're there during happy hour, their appetizers are half off. Neither one of us drink alcohol, but I'm totally willing to sit there for half-price appetizers. And in general the service is a bit quicker.

Tonight we had the same waiter that we had last week when we went in for lunch. He's a young guy (around college age, maybe just out of college) and pretty cute. I noticed last time that the guy has a ring on his ring finger. Wedding band? Maybe. "Purity" ring? Perhaps. Random ring he bought somewhere and totally clueless that it makes him look married? Totally possible.

As we left tonight we were talking about how to hit on guys. We weren't really trying to hit on our waiter, but we had both made comments about how he's cute and nice. As we were discussing how to hit on guys (which we are both utterly clueless about) I made the joke that it's a good thing I'm a Christian. My friend's response was "Christian or not, I still wouldn't know what to do." My answer, "me too." It's just not our personalities or in our nature. My next response, "this probably means I'll be single forever cause I have no idea how to flirt or hit on a guy."

I was watching "PS I Love You" the other night and this one character would walk up to a guy in a bar and ask: Are you Single? Do you have a job? And then she would kiss them. Seriously!!!! How in the world do you even do something like that?? What in the world???

The are definitely days that I realize I have no idea when it comes to guys. I think because I've always had guy friends that I permanently put out the "I wanna be your BFF and talk about sports" vibe. But then there are other days that I realize that the things you see on tv and in the movies are just that. I'm sure there are some folks out there that hit on people like they do on tv and in the movies. However I have a hard time believing that the rest of the world is really like that. Call it my little bubble or personality or something, but I think the rest of the world is more like me than my tv likes to think.

My hair dresser and I were having this conversation the other day about how tv makes it seem like everyone past the age of fourteen is having sex and on their seventh relationship. Now I'm not naive and I know the percentage of people waiting for marriage to have sex is ridiculously low, but still the real world is not what the shows are portraying or the movies are depicting. And poor kids out there are watching these things and thinking they need to be doing this stuff to be normal. That makes me so sad and angry. Even "reality tv" is not true reality. It's the extremes. That's why people enjoy watching it. It just makes me sad for kids because they are not getting a true depiction of the world and they are caving to pressures to fit in that don't truly even exist.

I'm not trying to cave to the pressures of tv. I know who I am and what I believe and I'll stand on that forever. But honestly, how do you hit on someone?? I'm baffled.

Until then......