Lately I have been thinking a lot about one particular relationship. I think about the amount of time I put in, the number of text, how much I initiate hanging out and conversations and such, and so on. I have then been thinking about this in comparison to the other person. My thoughts then float towards: am I texting too much? What are they going to think if I really call them now? Have I tried to hang out too much this week? Should I back off a little bit?
I don't think I am the only one who does this. Especially if we are talking about co-ed friendships. We want to reciprocate and mirror what other people are putting in to a friendship/relationship. As I've been thinking about this, here are a few thoughts that have come to mind from that:
The law of reciprocity is dumb and not a Biblical principle. I should love to the best of my ability no matter what comes back at me. If I care about someone, then I should care with all of me and not reserve or hold things back because the other person is not reciprocating in the same fashion or pace as I am. We are called to love as Christ has loved us and not with any restraints or laws holding us back in any way shape or form.
So yeah. Law of reciprocity is good in theory, but as Christians it should not dictate the way we handle relationships. It's hard to go against that. It really is. But I think that we are called to not just go with the flow. I want to be known as someone who really expresses the love of Christ well. You know how you meet people and they just ooze love and warmth? I want to be one of those people. Someone committed to loving others and loving with all of I am with no qualifiers at all.
Until then.....
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